Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Do What Comes Naturally to YOU!

  Seeing others working so hard to accomplish what others think they should be doing is a recipe for disaster.

Many of us naturally try to become what we see other people aspiring to be.  We hear someone sing angelically and so we decide we want to take music lessons.  We see someone wear all the latest fashions and know that we will feel so out-of-touch if we don't do the same.  We hear of mothers who have accomplished a list of activities, spent 3hrs. at the gym and cared for their ailing neighbor - all in one day!  Then we think that we had better get ourselves moving in the same direction!  We must not be doing enough!

It seems so silly to even read of these examples!  We really don't think we are following someone else's lead.  We are sure that it is just something we have CHOSEN  to do.  Actually, if we have never thought about who we really are and what our strengths are, then aimed totally in our own direction - there is a really good chance that we are just following someone else's ideals or purpose.

It is natural (the natural man spoken of in the scriptures) to think that we need to be doing something because that is what others are doing.  If you have ever tried to be someone who you are not - you know that it doesn't feel natural at all!  My sweet friend who is always trying to keep up with her neighbors as far as home decor, clothing and vehicles is always jumping from one new thing to another and is swayed by every new item or idea someone else has.  She is unhappy and always burdened with too much stuff and not enough time.

My friend doesn't even know that she is being lead to follow others' ways.  She hasn't stopped to take time to discover or unearth who she really is.  Take time today to stop and get to know yourself.  We should then follow the counsel of  John Maxwell who calls it the Law of Least Effort.  Think about it this way.  When you know what comes natural to you and only you, life becomes easier even effortless when your actions are in line with the real you!  The effort seems to not be so difficult because it is alignment with who you are - naturally!

An example of this would be my sister who has always liked baking.  She grew up making treats and food for our family.  After she was married she spent a lot of time understanding how different ingredients worked and especially when baking food items.  She created a cookie that people would beg her to make.  Then one day  the companies her husband works with in his occupation, began to pay her to deliver goodies for their company parties etc...  She soon took her knack for making specialty cookies and started her own bakery in a quaint old part of town near Hershey, PA.  It was so successful!  Now, she is beginning a new era of this industry by wholesaling her cookies out from her own recipes etc...

I don't think she ever realized how really good she was at making these type of cookies, but they are still very sought after treats.  Maybe, it isn't that she didn't stop to evaluate whether she had baking skills, but it is ironic that she had this gift be an integral part of who she is! Her life is an example of someone that is blessing lives through something she not only loves, but is extremely good at.  It just came natural as a talent and so she became interested in really learning more about it.  It was all done just for her family, to begin with.  Now, she is sharing her talent with the world!

It sounds like she is doing a lot, but do you suppose that it feels like she is overburdening herself?  Of course she could do the baking to the exclusion of everything else important in her life, but she is enjoying doing what she is good at and she loves to please others with it as well.  It seems effortless when you are doing what comes naturally and then taking it to greater levels in your life.

What do you do naturally?  Are you good at something that seems to be just part of life for you, but others have commented on it often?  Do you believe that you were meant for more than the things that seem like the daily grind for you?  Ask yourself and others what they see in you so that your life will become less stressful.  You will find that when you are not trying to do what others are doing, life is definitely simpler.  You will also find that you will have to work at it less or it will seem that you don't have to work as hard because you are not fighting against who you really are destined to become.  You will also feel happier because you are aligning yourself with your mission and purpose here on this earth.

I hope that you will feel inspired to discover who and what you are - who you really are at the core.  Then with all your efforts, change your activities and daily habits to line up with this true picture of yourself and you will begin to find joy in a simpler and more fulfilling life!

Tuesday, January 10, 2012


As I was reading Oliver DeMille's book called "Freedom Shift" (Fabulous book for helping you see how we can change this country of ours, back to a free land.),  I ran onto his thoughts about finding your purpose in life.  He says, "...personal mission is the central purpose of life.  While most moderns don't go off into the wilderness on a vision quest to find their life purpose, perhaps more of us should do the equivalent.  Without mission, life is confusing and ultimately disappointing.  With a clear sense of purpose, everything in life improves." 

I have found that to be so true as this new year begins.  I've listened to a few personal improvement CD's that list a bunch of words for you to choose from quickly, that will help you to know what is truly important in your life.  They help you to choose from a list of great words like: Peace, Contentment, Love..., then you choose what hits you when you hear them quickly.  They have you narrow it down to 6 words only and then 3 words.  From these 3, you write out a statement for each one and call that your mission or purpose in life.  I know this is a good way to start, but ultimately we will be frustrated again, until we know what it is that God wants us to be doing - personally.  We will feel unsettled and feel that there has to be something more to our lives.

Learning for ourselves what our true purpose in life is, really is all about taking time to ponder and reflect on our life and who we are at our core.  The entire reason for putting together this blog, my ebook and program I've shared at conventions etc...  is to help each of us to begin to really think right - with the help of some thought provoking and leading questions.

I believe that you and I will feel so blessed as we begin to see who we truly are in God's eyes, so that our lives can be filled with value and meaning.  We all feel the need to know ourselves.  We wonder what others think of us and sometimes we just feel so unsure about who we really are.  Sometimes, it just takes a death of a loved one or something life shattering, to wake us up to the fact that we really need to see who we are, in God's eyes, so that we can do whatever we are meant to be doing here on this earth.  It is so comforting when we know that we are headed in the right direction with our lives.

My husband asked me this morning, what I thought his talents are.  I was happy to think and evaluate with him so that he could see himself through someone else's eyes.  I think it is better to ask more than one person, because others see you through their own perspective and it may not be totally who you are.  You would be surprised, though, what you can learn when you ask 3 people who you trust.  I have found it to be a valuable exercise to ask them what they think your strengths are and what they see as your weaknesses. When they share with you, you are able to see a pattern in the types of things they share, that will help you see what God knows about you.  It helps to have written down what you think your strengths and weaknesses are at first, so that you can compare and see who you really are more clearly.  This has been one of the most eye opening activities for women who have used this program.

With the quote from Olive DeMille, he ends with saying that everything in our lives will improve with a fresh and new, clear sense of purpose.  I can testify to this statement being totally true.  When we take the time to listen and ponder we can truly feel satisfied that we all have things that we are to do with our lives.  We were each put here on this earth with different personalities, environments, families, cultures, perspectives etc... that all were meant to help us become the best we can be.  I hope you and I will desire to improve our lives, in every area by going on our own personal vision quest! 

Have a great and powerful start to your new year!!