Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Do What Comes Naturally to YOU!

  Seeing others working so hard to accomplish what others think they should be doing is a recipe for disaster.

Many of us naturally try to become what we see other people aspiring to be.  We hear someone sing angelically and so we decide we want to take music lessons.  We see someone wear all the latest fashions and know that we will feel so out-of-touch if we don't do the same.  We hear of mothers who have accomplished a list of activities, spent 3hrs. at the gym and cared for their ailing neighbor - all in one day!  Then we think that we had better get ourselves moving in the same direction!  We must not be doing enough!

It seems so silly to even read of these examples!  We really don't think we are following someone else's lead.  We are sure that it is just something we have CHOSEN  to do.  Actually, if we have never thought about who we really are and what our strengths are, then aimed totally in our own direction - there is a really good chance that we are just following someone else's ideals or purpose.

It is natural (the natural man spoken of in the scriptures) to think that we need to be doing something because that is what others are doing.  If you have ever tried to be someone who you are not - you know that it doesn't feel natural at all!  My sweet friend who is always trying to keep up with her neighbors as far as home decor, clothing and vehicles is always jumping from one new thing to another and is swayed by every new item or idea someone else has.  She is unhappy and always burdened with too much stuff and not enough time.

My friend doesn't even know that she is being lead to follow others' ways.  She hasn't stopped to take time to discover or unearth who she really is.  Take time today to stop and get to know yourself.  We should then follow the counsel of  John Maxwell who calls it the Law of Least Effort.  Think about it this way.  When you know what comes natural to you and only you, life becomes easier even effortless when your actions are in line with the real you!  The effort seems to not be so difficult because it is alignment with who you are - naturally!

An example of this would be my sister who has always liked baking.  She grew up making treats and food for our family.  After she was married she spent a lot of time understanding how different ingredients worked and especially when baking food items.  She created a cookie that people would beg her to make.  Then one day  the companies her husband works with in his occupation, began to pay her to deliver goodies for their company parties etc...  She soon took her knack for making specialty cookies and started her own bakery in a quaint old part of town near Hershey, PA.  It was so successful!  Now, she is beginning a new era of this industry by wholesaling her cookies out from her own recipes etc...

I don't think she ever realized how really good she was at making these type of cookies, but they are still very sought after treats.  Maybe, it isn't that she didn't stop to evaluate whether she had baking skills, but it is ironic that she had this gift be an integral part of who she is! Her life is an example of someone that is blessing lives through something she not only loves, but is extremely good at.  It just came natural as a talent and so she became interested in really learning more about it.  It was all done just for her family, to begin with.  Now, she is sharing her talent with the world!

It sounds like she is doing a lot, but do you suppose that it feels like she is overburdening herself?  Of course she could do the baking to the exclusion of everything else important in her life, but she is enjoying doing what she is good at and she loves to please others with it as well.  It seems effortless when you are doing what comes naturally and then taking it to greater levels in your life.

What do you do naturally?  Are you good at something that seems to be just part of life for you, but others have commented on it often?  Do you believe that you were meant for more than the things that seem like the daily grind for you?  Ask yourself and others what they see in you so that your life will become less stressful.  You will find that when you are not trying to do what others are doing, life is definitely simpler.  You will also find that you will have to work at it less or it will seem that you don't have to work as hard because you are not fighting against who you really are destined to become.  You will also feel happier because you are aligning yourself with your mission and purpose here on this earth.

I hope that you will feel inspired to discover who and what you are - who you really are at the core.  Then with all your efforts, change your activities and daily habits to line up with this true picture of yourself and you will begin to find joy in a simpler and more fulfilling life!

Tuesday, January 10, 2012


As I was reading Oliver DeMille's book called "Freedom Shift" (Fabulous book for helping you see how we can change this country of ours, back to a free land.),  I ran onto his thoughts about finding your purpose in life.  He says, "...personal mission is the central purpose of life.  While most moderns don't go off into the wilderness on a vision quest to find their life purpose, perhaps more of us should do the equivalent.  Without mission, life is confusing and ultimately disappointing.  With a clear sense of purpose, everything in life improves." 

I have found that to be so true as this new year begins.  I've listened to a few personal improvement CD's that list a bunch of words for you to choose from quickly, that will help you to know what is truly important in your life.  They help you to choose from a list of great words like: Peace, Contentment, Love..., then you choose what hits you when you hear them quickly.  They have you narrow it down to 6 words only and then 3 words.  From these 3, you write out a statement for each one and call that your mission or purpose in life.  I know this is a good way to start, but ultimately we will be frustrated again, until we know what it is that God wants us to be doing - personally.  We will feel unsettled and feel that there has to be something more to our lives.

Learning for ourselves what our true purpose in life is, really is all about taking time to ponder and reflect on our life and who we are at our core.  The entire reason for putting together this blog, my ebook and program I've shared at conventions etc...  is to help each of us to begin to really think right - with the help of some thought provoking and leading questions.

I believe that you and I will feel so blessed as we begin to see who we truly are in God's eyes, so that our lives can be filled with value and meaning.  We all feel the need to know ourselves.  We wonder what others think of us and sometimes we just feel so unsure about who we really are.  Sometimes, it just takes a death of a loved one or something life shattering, to wake us up to the fact that we really need to see who we are, in God's eyes, so that we can do whatever we are meant to be doing here on this earth.  It is so comforting when we know that we are headed in the right direction with our lives.

My husband asked me this morning, what I thought his talents are.  I was happy to think and evaluate with him so that he could see himself through someone else's eyes.  I think it is better to ask more than one person, because others see you through their own perspective and it may not be totally who you are.  You would be surprised, though, what you can learn when you ask 3 people who you trust.  I have found it to be a valuable exercise to ask them what they think your strengths are and what they see as your weaknesses. When they share with you, you are able to see a pattern in the types of things they share, that will help you see what God knows about you.  It helps to have written down what you think your strengths and weaknesses are at first, so that you can compare and see who you really are more clearly.  This has been one of the most eye opening activities for women who have used this program.

With the quote from Olive DeMille, he ends with saying that everything in our lives will improve with a fresh and new, clear sense of purpose.  I can testify to this statement being totally true.  When we take the time to listen and ponder we can truly feel satisfied that we all have things that we are to do with our lives.  We were each put here on this earth with different personalities, environments, families, cultures, perspectives etc... that all were meant to help us become the best we can be.  I hope you and I will desire to improve our lives, in every area by going on our own personal vision quest! 

Have a great and powerful start to your new year!!

Friday, December 2, 2011

The Gift of Purpose!!

   We all need something to really live for - I mean something that helps us to want to get out of bed.  Something that helps our daily routines seem unburdensome because we have something in our heart that we know we are living for each day!

  Sometimes our problems seem to be so boldly before our eyes, that it is difficult to even have a desire to get through them.  Life can feel so heavy that we really feel that life is only a moment to moment process - not a bright place to soar through!

  I have many friends who have experiences like I have had where I could just lay down on my bed and close my eyes and not care if I didn't wake up.  I have had times, like many of my friends when I believed that I was the only one who was dealing with stuff that I felt I just couldn't deal with very well.   Things that seemed hard enough to just curl up in a ball and hope the world would just move on without me.

  I have felt that one of the greatest gifts I was given was a way to discover what I was sent to this earth to do.  I knew inside, as do each of you, that I was sent here for a reason.  I knew that somewhere in my life I had things to accomplish and lives to influence.  I never knew that I was really any more special than anyone else.  Which I am not, but I am special and so are you!  

  Your life is a gift to someone, probably many many people!  I know that you may not see it - I didn't - but God is your father and that makes you of royal birth!  There are so many times that our thoughts are the culprits that seem to "put us in our place"!  We tell ourselves, " Who am I to think that I have anything that could bless the lives of others or that could be important enough to accomplish?  I am just me!"  

  That is why I feel that YOU NEED to invest some time in yourself!  You need to take the time to listen to the whisperings of your heart and decipher what God desires you to know about your life!  This is the time to give yourself the gift of knowing your purpose for this season of your life and beyond!  You CAN KNOW what that purpose is and YOU NEED to know what it is.

  I have written this "Finding Your Purpose" book for you to get started on that path!  You can take the principles you know and add them to what you learn.  You will never ever regret the time you give to allow our Heavenly Father to speak to you for your sincere and eternal progress!

  I hope that you will see who you are!  I also hope that you will give this gift of information to others this holiday season!  I have watched friends I love hide the truth of their stuggles and pain behind closed doors because they don't know that life can be filled with light!  Burdens don't have to exist as heavy weights each moment of the day.  There is a way to walk strongly, with a bounce and giggle in your heart as you pursue your purpose!

  Give this gift to yourself and if you desire to bless others' lives as well - give ths "Finding Your Purpose" ebook to loved ones and others who seem to be okay but, who knows, maybe your purpose is to give the gift of hope!  It is only $5 and it may be the very blessing you or your loved ones need!  It is in the right column and easily accessible - let me know if there is any problem with your purchase.

  Give yourself the gift you really need this coming year - the gift of a purpose filled life!
Enjoy this Holiday Season!

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Life Lessons for Today

  I have been learning a lot lately about the blessings that come from learning discipline in all areas of our lives.  I have heard some people say that it is too hard to work on something for very long - it is just too easy to be comfortable with the normal routine of life.

  I have found that it is actually easier on your mind if you don't keep repeating the same mistakes or bad habits by changing how you think, through gaining new information.

  I have been dealing with migraine headaches that are actually getting better as I peel away the layers of the problem, but there are times when I have the headache and I still need to continue to function in the REAL world, instead of writhing in painful oblivion.  As I have been forming the habit of taking the time to be reading more self-improvement books from some of the top leadership guru's, I have learned to focus better and understand how to discipline my thinking, no matter how I am feeling.

  As I have learned the importance of consistently working on something -  like peeling away the layers of the migraine problem -  I have also seen the fruits of doing just one thing every day for 30 days, like reading a helpful book for 15 min. daily.  Just doing that one thing for 30 days has improved my life immensely!   It has helped me to have ideas about how to begin to find solutions to my physical health problems.

  Down the road of time I have seen that that one discipline of reading daily repeated over and over again, and added to other similar traits, have brought amazing results!  I have now been able to only be in bed for about one day with the ability to still go about my normal tasks of the day, instead of 3-5 days of total debilitating pain!

 I have seen how disciplining my brain to stop any negative or unhealthy thoughts and replacing them with the flip-side of that thought, can help to create better health and greater happiness.  I have been able to not only manage some of my headache times, but I could even think clearly enough to teach a lesson at church on the first day of the migraine!

  I have spent many days putting good information in my mind consistently. They have paid off today.  I have smiled when I have realized that repeating an action like that in my life, has made the thought-switching, happen automatically - just as natural as if I had been born with it!

  There are other areas of my life that have been needing discipline, too.  I have been working on them with my thoughts as well.  I have needed to help myself and my family with better eating habits.  As I took the time to actually evaluate how we are eating overall, I realized that we were doing okay, but the habits we were forming now would last for generations.  I know this from first-hand experience in my life!  I have watched myself struggle and struggle all because I hadn't realized that I had some habits formed from my youth that clouded my thinking.

  Every time I have stopped to think - no matter what area of my life I am struggling in or is in need of repair - I have been able to see how important it is to discipline the thinking in my mind.  Now, just like the penny doubling principle, after many days or even years of doing lots of little disciplines in my day that don't seem to be helping me much but have added up to millions more than was started with one issue, I am so hugely improved and happier!

  Taking the time to work on one seemingly insignificant discipline have such great outcomes, that it is a wonder that I didn't see it all long ago.  It has taken me years to get to the point of realizing that I should actually be focusing on what is a priority to me - then focusing on one piece at a time - to create a life of beauty and happiness each and every day of my life!

There are more thoughts on this idea in the Finding Your Purpose ebook on the left side of this page, if you desire to understand the concept a little more.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Puppy Pull

  It was definitely a scene that imprinted itself on my memory.  I looked out my back window and saw my 2 young sons playing with our puppy on the dirt hill.  They had tied a rope around the puppy and were trying desperately to drag it to a cave they had dug.  It was so funny to see that pup laying down as hard as possible to keep from being forced into doing anything! 
  Then it happened, the rope came loose accidentally, and was unnoticed by my sons.  As they moved ahead, the puppy began to chase the end of the rope!  I laughed at how simple it became to get the pup to do everything they wanted when it had it's freedom to choose what to do.

  It was such an eye-opening experience.  I thought about how much better it is to be able to choose what we do with our time and our lives, rather than having someone else putting things into our day.  I want to rebel and feel frustrated when I feel pulled into doing things that I hadn't planned on doing, just like the puppy.

  I will even do a lot of difficult and time consuming things if I feel like it is moving me towards my purpose in life.  That is way more fulfilling than being thrown into having to add extra "urgent" things into my life so that I feel like I am in chaos. 

  I know that there are things in our day that we have to do, that don't seem like a choice.  Actually, we do decide what we think is important enough to be put into our daily routines.  Evaluating what should be a part of our daily routine will really be a blessing for us.

  You may have places in your life where you are letting the time schedule fill your day, and you feel at a loss as to how to fix the routine.

  Giving yourself a once a month "house cleaning" to decide if you are really putting your chosen priorities first will be a great starting point.  Sometimes we just haven't taken the time to stop, step back and take a good look at what we are doing to see if what we are doing has to be done at that time - every day.

  We really do become free when we feel that we have made the choices about what goes into our time daily.  It is just like the picture of the puppy not wanting to be pulled but desiring to choose what he would be doing.  Knowing what you want to accomplish in your life, under inspiration, will fill you with satisfaction that you are putting the most essential and vitally important things in your life first on the daily schedule!

  For more information on how to find your purpose in this life - there is a process put together in the book on the right side of this post.  You will get the background thoughts and full idea in the 95 pages.  Have fun discovering who you are meant to become!


Monday, August 22, 2011

How Do Others See Me??

  I have a friend named Lilly that is so amazing.  She is really good at listening and at learning things.  She takes in all the information, processes it with what she already knows and has a well rounded perspective on those topics.  She is always being wise about what she has learned when she willingly shares it with others.  She has a talent for inhaling and exhaling what she learns.  We all benefit from the fresh breath of perspective that she gives.

  My friend doesn't see that about herself.  She doesn't see how great she is and how much we appreciate her gift and talent for wisdom.  She has so many faults and weaknesses in her own mind, that she sometimes focuses on them and can't see the things that come so naturally to her in her life. 

  It is so interesting to see this same scenario happen over and over again with people of all walks of life.  We think we know ourselves, because the weaknesses seem to be so illuminated.  We don't often take the time to stop and get to know who we really are.  Sometimes we think we are a certain personality and in the end we learn that we weren't looking at it from all of the angles and we are the opposite personality. 

  You might be absolutely blown away by what strengths others see in you.  You think others look at you in some critical way, when in reality they are so totally impressed with who you are.  Take the challenge to ask a few others how they honestly see you.  It works best on paper so that they can think about it without you in front of them.  You will probably have an eye-opening experience.

  Would you like to know?  I mean really know about yourself?  Take the time to focus on 5 or more different areas of your life and ask yourself how you see yourself in each area.  It is funny, but taking the time to do this helps you to see yourself in a much more clear way.  Generally, you will see that you are amazing!  You are definitely greater than you think you are!

Give it a try!  If you are needing to have a format or way to put this process together, the full program is in an ebook form on the right of this blog.  Whatever you do, begin today to see the beautiful new perspective of who you really are!

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

I Don't Want to Fail Again!

  I have some great friends that tell me that they don't want to take the time to try a new program for self development - because they don't want to fail again!

  At first, I didn't understand that idea.  Then I realized that what they were saying was true for a lot of us.  We are cautious because we didn't do well on that diet plan or that chore chart program etc...  We have a fear of not measuring up to the requirements!  Some of us don't even want to start because we have sabotaged ourselves in our minds at other times in our lives.

  I realized what my friends were trying to tell me was that my "Finding Your Purpose" program was another program to fail!  Here is why this program will not let them fail:

  In reality, this program is just a process to help them come to know who they really are - which will help them figure out what their purpose is for this time in their life!.  They could do it on their own by just asking themselves questions - but the blessing of this program is that it asks questions from all different angles -  angles that they may have never thought of before. They could have the help they need to just begin the process of thinking about their lives. So, the program is really just a conduit to facilitate the outcome!

  Another benefit of the program is that it helps them THINK about how to clarify what they want to have happen in their lives and aids them in putting together a plan.  This can all be done in their own way.  But the basic IDEAS and PRINCIPLES are really the key.  These are so important for helping my friends to move forward in becoming whatever they want to become.  They can keep it as simple as they need it to be, and at their own pace, and in their own timing.

  I also realized, that what my friends were saying was that this was too much for them and that they were comparing themselves to the great things that they had seen happen in the lives of other people.  Here is how to truly look at the process of discovering who they are meant to be.

  What finding your purpose in life can do for you:
    1.It helps you have something fun to focus on, because you know it really is what you SHOULD be working on and that can excite you to WANT to do it.
    2.It gives you confidence in whatever you are moving towards.
    3.You find that things pertaining to your purpose, are all-of-a-sudden attracted to you!
    4.You are taking steps forward in your life - no matter how small - and it feels so good just to be moving in a direction that is right for only YOU!

  Having found your purpose allows you to FREE the REAL YOU and what you are meant to be!  It is worth the effort to just take a step forward - for yourself!  You are worth it!!  You can not fail!  It only serves to broaden your perspective, no matter how far through the process that you actually get!  At least you are working on the most important project you have in this life - becoming what you are meant to be.
(My ebook on the right will give you the step-by-step details to accomplish what you desire.)